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So homosexual marriage finally seems like it's getting approval from the American public, to which I say Kudos! I'm firmly attracted to the female form myself, but I'd never want to keep someone from marrying someone else.

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  • @BlankCanvasDJ said: sexual incompatibility is one of the biggest causes of infidelity.

    Says who? People stop having sex because they're unhappy, not because he wants to do it on the table when she wants to do it on the bed and they can't compromise.

    Lack of communication and problems caused by money are the two biggest reasons why people get divorced. Not because they can't agree on where and in what position to have sex.


    And the reason why people have infidelity is because in their moments of unhappiness, they find someone else to whom they can turn emotionally; someone who makes them feel better in a way their spouse does not. This doesn't mean the couple is incompatible; it means that they don't communicate enough about their feelings and what it is that they're looking for to be happy again.

  • @Chyron8472 said: Says who? People stop having sex because they're unhappy, not because he wants to do it on the table when she wants to do it on the bed and they can't compromise.

    And that makes some people unhappy.

    And the reason why people have infidelity is because in their moments of unhappiness, they find someone else to whom they can turn emotionally; someone who makes them feel better in a way their spouse does not. This doesn't mean the couple is incompatible; it means that they don't communicate enough about their feelings and what it is that they're looking for to be happy again.

    Communication is, of course, very important, but not every single problem in a relationship has to do with feelings and communication. Sexuality plays a very important role in a relationship and compatibility should be just as important as personality, intelligence, physical attributes and everything else that you look for in someone when you're determining whether or not they're "the one". Again, you did it differently and it worked out well for you. Congratulations, I think that's wonderful. But that ain't everybody.

  • @BlankCanvasDJ said: And that makes some people unhappy.

    I was pointing out that such an issue (about position and location) is a very minor quibble.

    Communication is, of course, very important, but not every single problem in a relationship has to do with feelings and communication.

    But communication will almost always solve it.

    Sexuality plays a very important role in a relationship and compatibility.

    Maybe if you're gay and in a straight relationship or vice versa, but beyond that I don't see how the problem can't be solved by talking at length about it. Besides, if that were the real issue, I'd have thought one would have figured it out early on when one's hormones weren't affected by the opposite sex.

    Communication doesn't just mean talking about random stuff. It's the emotional connection that's important. The idea that you love each other and you want to make each other happy. You have to open yourself up to being potentially vulnerable, and if you've done so in the past such that they hurt you for it, you have to tell them about it in an honest way without being accusatory.

  • @Chyron8472 said: I was pointing out that such an issue (about position and location) is a very minor quibble.

    And I assumed you knew I wasn't actually talking about anything as minor as arguments over whether to have sex on the bed or the dining room table.

    Look, we're obviously not going to agree here. You won't convince me and I won't convince you. The point of all this is that different people find happiness in different ways and, as long as nobody is getting hurt, no one should give a damn how, where, or from who that happiness comes from.

  • My opinion.

    Sex is an important part of any romantic adult relationship, and it's possible for two people to be incompatible in what they want and how often they want sex. It would be nice to know this before getting married. Yes, people do get divorced over this issue.

    As far as casual, have sex with the guy on the train and never see him again thing goes, I think that's OK, too. It's a learning experience, hopefully fun, and you'll take something away from it (hopefully using adequate protection to avoid certain somethings). Later on, when you want to settle down with your ideal partner, you'll have a better understanding of what you like, and what is overrated and not so important.

    And if you think that's overly slutty, that's OK, too. Everyone has their own opinions of how relationships should be, and no matter what yours is, there's someone out there who agrees with you.

  • Coolsome...thank you. You've made Professor Oak out to be a perv in addition to a massive jerk of a grandfather.

  • @Shadowknight1 said: Coolsome...thank you. You've made Professor Oak out to be a perv in addition to a massive jerk of a grandfather.

    You realise this now!?

    I mean the guy hangs around Ash's mom all the time and has Tracy as his manbitch! I thought it was obvious...

  • I know I'm late to the conversation here, but I'm intrigued by the fact that someone who likes Mass Effect enough to make it his forum handle would be so anti-gay at the same time. All three games had lesbian romance options, and 3 had a gay male romance options with both Kaidan and Cortez. Why would you support a game that supports something you're that offended by? Weird.

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