View Full Version : What makes you make friendships with other people?
03/11/2011, 04:19 pm
How do people draw your friendship to them? I'm sure everyone is different, and you might be hard pressed to give a example to sum up all your relationships, but surely over all there's a few show stoppers in your book. Which, I'd imagine gives you a loose guideline, where people can be flawed, yet only imperfect and still suitable friend material for some duration of time.
When making friendships, and when not making them, what turned you off to making friends with some one? What did that person do or say, that made you decide that they might be alright but they weren't friends material?
03/11/2011, 04:26 pm
If someone can make me laugh, I usually open up to them easier.
03/17/2011, 11:33 pm
I have small criteria for getting friends, they just have to like me and then I will be everyone's friend.
And many times people don't like me, so I don't have many friends.
Well I guess that is quite a lie, as I have quite a few friends on Facebook, and I do talk to them and have met them in real life.
But in my younger years, I was just lonely as no one liked me and I was bullied.
03/17/2011, 11:59 pm
Modesty is usually a nice attribute. I'm rarely drawn to anyone who loves to fire their mouth off about everything good about themselves and list their achievements one-by-one.
I also like people who either appreciate humour, or are good at using it. So, in other words, someone who either makes me laugh, or someone who is willing to laugh at the things I say.
People who share a common interest are also more interesting for me to talk to or 'be friends' with, whether it be music, sport, games, etc.
People who are welcoming always make friend material; people who try to look interested even when you're most probably boring them, people who are willing to listen to you, and people who won't mock or judge you if you tell them something about yourself.
Also, I like people who I can have conversations with that go beyond 'small talk'; where I can actually talk about some deeper, more profound, more interesting topics than just "how you're going" and "what you've been up to lately".
I could go on, but these are just a few things that I find good about a person.
03/18/2011, 06:31 am
I usually try to be nice to everyone... even if they are not necessarily all that nice to me its the way I was raised and its the way I want my kids to be. I also have a unique sense of humor... that is usually how I win people over.
As for me I look for friends that like some of the same things I do, all my friends are pretty funny too so I guess that is important.
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